Healing is something that has been at the forefront of my mind lately…. How could it not be? If you have read some of my previous entries you may have read a couple where I talked about my recent shoulder surgery. Friday will be four weeks since I ‘went under the knife’ and I am happy to say that the healing process is going well. That said, it has not been without some angst and frustration. I am a very active person. I have a hard time sitting still. I am a problem solver. All of these things are frustrated by the length of a healing process. So what have I done about it? I have followed my doctor’s advice and that of the physical therapist. I have made sure that my diet and my sleeping patterns (where possible) are conducive to healing. I have spent countless hours exercising areas that don’t involve using my shoulder before it has healed….
By all indications (knock on wood), this is having a positive effect. According to my PT, I am right where I should be and even ahead of schedule. I have lost some weight (on my way to another goal realization in this area) and the activity is keeping me sane. Am I where I would like to be? No… but then again, it is something that can’t be rushed and it is just another example where I am my own worst critic. Relaxing and letting it happen is the tough part. All I can do is set myself up for success, manage the risks, work my plan and see it through to its completion. This is logical and it suits my thought process well … easy peasy lemon squeezy 🙂
The ironic thing is that physical healing is usually far easier than emotional or mental healing. No one wants to hear when they are feeling overwhelmed or hurting in any way that time is all they need. In our ‘instant gratification’ based society, we want it to be all better now. This is a fallacy anyway, in my opinion. Time only heals wounds if you let it… AND if you have learned from the experience that got you there in the first place. The problem is that we often extend the pain because we don’t set ourselves up for success in dealing with it… Physically we do what we need to do to get better if we want it to happen. Emotionally, not always. Self doubt, depression, and feelings of unworthiness creep in and we fulfill a self-defeating prophecy. We have to believe it will happen, give it time to happen, have a plan to make it happen, and figure out what to do differently…
Einstein said that the definition of insanity is ‘Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.’ Physically, this is easy to understand… If we are healing from an injury and we move the body part that hurts the wrong way, we quickly learn not to repeat that movement because we are painfully aware of the outcome. Emotions, communications, and behavior patterns usually try to defy this hard and fast rule. It only takes a rat a few trips (sometimes only one) down the wrong maze tunnel to realize there is no cheese at the end. I think we would all like to think we are smarter than rats. I guess the bottom line is what we think about ourselves governs what we are willing to accept. I think, above all, that the rat probably believes that he deserves the cheese.
It is usually the case that we are all better at giving advice than following it ourselves. This is probably one of those cases… So, I will endeavor to read my own blog and eat my own ‘dog food’, so to speak… I will continue to be who I am, I am the only one who is half decent at it after all :), and in my estimation it will lead to some cheese now and again… (Note to self: Buy some crackers…)
Thanks for reading….